First off, let me just say, wow! I am blown away by all the awesome and informative comments everyone shared with me yesterday on the issue of including registry information with an invitation. In fact, your comments were so passionate and offered so many different points of view that I decided a follow-up post was definitely in order.
First, to those of you who have included your registry info with an invite, it was in no way my aim to make you feel bad about your decision, and I sincerely apologize if that was in any way the case. In stating my opinion, I was simply sharing my perspective, which I draw from my own experiences and preferences. Your experiences are, of course, uniquely yours, and it’s therefore right for you to make an entirely different choice than I would. In the end, it's not a big deal at all, and I intended this issue to be a topic for discussion more than anything else.
As I said in yesterday’s post, I am definitely not one to blindly follow etiquette guidelines simply because they exist. However, including registry information with an invite has always stood out to me as inconsiderate simply because I feel it puts pressure on those who may not be able to afford a gift. I think it also might compel guests to feel they have to choose from a specific registry site or store, when they would prefer to give another type of gift. For these reasons, I personally avoided it with my invites and would rather not directly receive it from others. I would much rather visit the couple's website, or directly ask them where they've registered, if no website details are available.
But after reading many of your comments about why you consider it acceptable, I can better understand that point-of-view. When it comes to weddings, no one opinion is always the right one, including mine! Learning from others and sharing different perspectives is one thing I love most about the wedding industry, and is what I've set out to accomplish with this blog. I'm glad this is a place where we can all respectfully agree or disagree, and be honest about our views.
What do you say, ladies? Any final words or thoughts?
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