Over the years, many a bride has confided that from "day one" of her engagement, the pressure was on to not only have the best dress, décor, food and drinks, but also to wow everyone with the most unique cake, favors, vows...you name it.
Now a bride myself, I think it’s amazing that there are so many fun, unconventional ideas out there, and I definitely want our day to be as personalized and reflective of our personalities as possible. After all, what fun is a cookie-cutter wedding? But in my eyes, there’s a difference between adding unique touches that are truly meaningful to my fiancé and I, and simply feeling pressured or compelled to shun all things traditional simply out of fear that others might view our plans, or worse, us, as boring, old-fashioned or outright dull.
I’ve long described my personal style as classic with a modern twist, and when it comes to the wedding, you’d better believe I’m adding plenty of personal touches that will bring individuality to the big day without overdoing it. The biggest of these is our “California Romance” theme, which lets us tie in city postcards as table name cards, serve signature sangria and a Mexican buffet, as well as showcase vineyard-style grapevine decorations on the wedding cake and in our décor.
But, on the other hand, I’m definitely sticking with certain traditional aspects I love for their elegance and timelessness. Topping this list are the classic three-tiered cake, bouquets oozing with roses, and a golf club ballroom reception.
In my eyes, our wedding day is a beautiful opportunity to celebrate our love for each other, as well as our friends and family members, while giving everyone a taste of our style, personalities, and the things that make us tick. A showoff, look-at-how-great-creative-and-better-than-you-we-are affair is definitely not for us.
If traditional touches suit a bride’s style, I say they are just as unique as the latest and greatest trends to grace the wedding world, mostly because they reflect her desires in a way that is genuine and sincere. For her to strive to be different simply for the sake of being different would be inauthentic and phony. And, as we all know too well, that’s not unique at all.
What are your unique wedding day ideas, and which traditional aspects are you sticking with? Do you think there’s occasionally too much pressure on brides to be the best or to be different?
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