Friday, June 18, 2010

The Ceremony Begins…But, Uh-Oh, Where’s The Bride?!

Our wedding day was perfect. Not flawless, and not without a few mishaps here and there. But in the end, it was perfect for us simply because it was our wedding day.

However, to kick off the recaps, I’d like to first shine a spotlight on the biggest thing that went wrong. Why? Well, first to tell all of you yet-to-be-married girls that no matter how much you plan and prepare, something (hopefully small) will most likely go wrong on your wedding day. And secondly, because I hope you’ll realize that when it does, it will definitely not ruin the day or take away from the happiness you feel. Unless, of course, you let it.

From on early in my engagement, I’ve shared numerous tales about how strict the Catholic Church can be. And on my wedding day, I learned just how far they’re willing to take that.


There I was, waiting in the bride’s room at the church with my bridesmaids and parents, feeling more nervous than I had expected to feel. Maybe it was simply nerves, or perhaps the Jamba Juice smoothie I drank the hour before didn’t agree with me. Either way, as the start-time approached, I started to feel slightly sick to my stomach. With my sister’s help, I was able to retreat to the restroom and take a couple minutes to gather my composure. Thankfully, I started to feel better.

But then, all of a sudden, there was a frantic knock at the door. It was my mom, and I could hardly believe my ears as she cried out, “They’ve all gone down the aisle!” What?! Without so much as asking me or even checking to see if I was still waiting in the bride’s room, the church’s coordinator had started the processional at 3:30 p.m. on the button! Moving as fast as anyone probably ever has in a wedding gown, I flew from the bathroom with Kellie right ahead of me.

Cari, our own day-of coordinator, appeared to feel terrible about what the church’s director had done. Kellie snatched up her bouquet and headed straight down the aisle. Luckily, she was walking most of the way by herself, with the best man meeting her close to the altar, so no one else had been left without a partner.


At this point, things began to blur together in my mind. I vaguely recall that on the church’s TV screen, I could see Stephen and all of our friends assembled up at the altar. I remember Cari and my mom asking whether I was OK. I can recollect my mom and dad taking their places at either side of the archway marking the start of the aisle, where I would a couple seconds later join them.

In these frantic moments, things could have gone horribly wrong. But in the end, they didn’t. Looking back, I’m thankful Kellie and I hadn’t gone into the bathroom even just a minute later, because when talking with Stephen after the ceremony, he told me that neither he nor the guests had any inkling that we almost missed our cue and were completely caught off guard. The slight pause before Kellie went down the aisle added a dramatic effect, he said, and I somehow appeared right at the appropriate moment, also after a few seconds of added suspense.

And now, a couple weeks later, this is by far the most utterly silly but entertaining story we have from the day. Who knows? Maybe 50 years from now, when all the sweet wedding tales have been worn out and the photo albums get old, this funny, ridiculous snippet will be the one that survives. Only time will tell…


LESSON LEARNED: Though it should be common sense to any coordinator, I’d recommend telling whoever is in charge at your venue to check in with you before starting the wedding ceremony. And if you’re marrying in a church or at another venue where there’s a coordinator you didn’t hire yourself, be sure he or she gets the message, since these individuals often ignore or go over the heads of any other planners who might be present.

If you’re already married, what are the biggest “oops” moments that popped up during your wedding day? If not, what are you most concerned might go wrong? What would you have done in my situation?

(Photo Credits: Personal Library)

17 comments:

  1. We were waiting in the building next door for someone to come get all the girls to go and line up and we kept waiting and waiting. I was like "well I know they can't start without me" I guess your story proves that isn't exactly the case!

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  2. Thats so bizarre! Why wouldn't she check with YOU first?! Oh well! Sounds like it all turned out ok and you have a funny story out of it too. Great pics!

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  3. Oh goodness! You handeled it well! :)

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  4. I think weddings without flaws are myths. Way to handle the minor mishap with aplomb!

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  5. The wedding I was just in had a similar problem. The grandparents of the bride hadn't arrived (still don't know why!) and the musicians started our processional music. I calmed her down, pointing out that it's Pachelbel's Canon and can be played FOREVER. We waited a few and finally started without them, but she was panicking that her groom would think she had run. Too bad he was already standing in the front of church and we couldn't tell him!

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  6. Great tip, and I'm glad this little blip in your day ended up ok! You looked beautiful!

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  7. Was there more than one wedding scheduled at the church that day, or was she just the most punctual person alive? Cheers to all of you for not letting it get to you, though. Kim @BrideGoggles is right. Weddings without flaws are myths! With mine, the groom was late: oddly, also because of a Jamba Juice smoothie!

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  8. Oh my goodness. Congratulations! I love that ribbon around your dress. What a beautiful ceremony!

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  9. My wedding day...the biggest oops was letting my husband's family not plan on driving the grandfather (our officiant!) to the venue. He tried to drive himself, and ended up getting lost and his car broke down. Sounds like a movie right? I was heated. How irresponsible of his family. But I guess he tried to be independent...he's in his seventies...we ended up starting when I wanted to but still. How nerve wrecking when half an hour before the ceremony we had no idea where he was.

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  10. Thanks for all of your comments and thoughts, ladies! Lisa, I think she was just the most punctual person alive. The church may have had a choir practice scheduled later in the evening, but my sister and I were only in the bathroom for all of a few minutes. I don’t think it would have killed her to start at 3:35 p.m. instead of 3:30 p.m. Our wedding ceremony was only half an hour long to begin with!

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  11. I will share our ceremony mishaps in a future recap. But i was in a wedding at a church were their cordinator with super annoying as well. She went against everything we had told her And was just difficult for the entire process. I definitely recommend trying to avoid church corrdinators. They seem to be overly strict. It is a funny and cute story though. I also have a last minute stress out right before my walk down the aisle....ugh

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  13. Wow! I had no idea! Every thing looked like it went great!

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  14. Thanks for the tip about speaking to the coordinator ahead of time...although that seems AWFULLY common sense!

    Also, between you and Lisa, I think I'm going to avoid the Jamba Juice Jynx on the wedding day, haha.

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  15. You handled yourself very well. I can't believe that they didn't at least check in to be sure you were ready.
    My biggest worry is tripping down the isle. I tend to be a bit of a klutz.

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  16. Glad you made it right on time!

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  17. I cant believe they didnt check with you first!

    Our minister waited until we were all lined up ready to go before telling the pianist to start and the girls started walking.

    So glad you made it down in time though! {I was feeling a bit odd before too and put it down to the nerves as well!}

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