Wednesday, November 25, 2009

What Matters Most

This week, while I was busy blogging, researching wedding flowers and daydreaming about favors, one of my colleagues sadly lost her father to a long-term illness.

While it’s so easy to get caught up in the excitement, stress and emotion of planning a wedding, news like this reminds me how truly important it is to keep things in perspective, realizing that some of the frustrations I’m experiencing really aren’t significant at the end of the day.

Because while no one will remember the small wedding day mishaps that we as brides so frequently worry about, and will probably over time forget all about the bridesmaids’ dresses, color schemes and cake flavors, everyone will remember the smiles, tears of joy and loved ones who are the most important part of the day.

I’m looking forward to taking the Thanksgiving holiday to simply spend time with those I love, talk to those I can’t be with, and celebrate the things in my life that can’t be quantified by guest lists or budgets. For me, the best part of planning my wedding is truly the journey and the process, which have already given me memories to last a lifetime.

I hope you have a wonderful holiday, and that you'll savor the joys in your life on Thanksgiving and every day.


  1. Sorry to hear about your colleagues father. You are so right about perspective. We do get caught up in the details of the wedding day and its easy to get frustrated and stressed over insignificant things. Have a great Thanksgiving!

  2. I know what you mean. I am posting tomorrow about what we always do for Thanksgiving each year - spend it with the entire family at my Grandma's house. About a year or two ago, my sister and I looked out my grandma's window (she lives in a park that is seniors only) and noticed a coroner's van taking a body out of a home and into their van. My sister totally started crying...we couldn't imagine losing someone on an actual holiday (or right around that time). It just made us sympathize so much with those who are missing loved ones at this time of year and much more appreciative of the family we are able to enjoy together. Thanks for reminding us of the important stuff.

  3. Great post! Happy Thanksgiving to you!