Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Marriage: One Big Publicity Stunt?

On August 20, I had the honor of coordinating a wedding for my friend and former co-worker Kim, who married her high school sweetheart of 12 years in a beautiful and heartfelt ceremony.

You may recall that the very same day, another woman named Kim was also busy tying the knot – this one much more famous but apparently not nearly as sincere in her love for and commitment to her partner. As you can imagine, I’m dumbfounded along with everyone else to hear that Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries have called it quits after just 72 days of marriage. But am I honestly all that surprised? Sadly, no, and here’s why. 

First of all, even from the very beginning, it seemed obvious to me that the wedding and marriage were nothing more than publicity stunts designed to generate media interest and rake in piles of cash. But even if they weren't, the alternative really isn’t much better in my eyes. After all, marrying someone you met less than a year earlier and then divorcing because marriage “wasn’t what you thought it would be,” flies in the face of everything this type of commitment stands for – a lifelong partnership that will at times require a great deal of hard work, sacrifice and support.  


Of course, Kim’s not the first to cash in on wedding-related publicity or to divorce so quickly, and it makes me sad and angry to know that there are so many people, celebrity or not, who obviously consider their wedding vows to be nothing more than empty words. Whatever happened to the sacredness of pledges to love one another “in good times and in bad, all the days of our lives”? Are these merely symbolic statements? Do couples still consider the true meaning behind what they are about to say and do before standing up in front of family members, friends, TV audiences and the world to make such intimate promises?

In the end, while I certainly do believe that there are legitimate reasons for divorce, including such horrible acts as infidelity and abuse, I also believe that we as a society have too often come to view weddings as nothing more than heavily staged parties. Furthermore, with so many divorces and splits, it saddens me to think that there are many loving and committed gay and lesbian couples who would faithfully honor their vows and take them seriously, but who aren’t given the chance, because somehow, couples like Kim and Kris have more of a right to marriage in our society.

What do you think? Do people like Kim and Kris make a mockery of marriage, and what does this say about our cultural attitudes?  

(Photo Credit: People) 

13 comments:

  1. it pains me to even read about stories like this. Marriage is too sacred to be mocked by this kind of foolish half hearted scheme.

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  2. I wasn't surprised either that she called it quits...sad...just sad

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  3. I wasn't surprised either. But I was really sad. When I read things she said like "I wanted my happily ever after" or "It was the hardest decision of my life" makes me really sad. I do think they rushed into it WAY to fast and should have taken the time to see if they really wanted to be together forever. But I also think she didn't give it much of a chance and just gave up. She just wanted "for better" apparently.

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  4. I'm not surprised they are divorcing especially after watching the show and seeing how much they bickered however I was surprised she called it quits SO fast. I figured at least 6 months- 1 year. Even Khloe's marriage has lasted longer and she only knew Lamar a month before they got married. She's a joke and this is even more proof of it. And I'm curious what she "thought" marriage was supposed to be like.

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  5. I believe that Kim really wants to get married and be a mom. As a 30 year old woman she has said that she wants that and is ready.

    I also think that their inclination to make money any way possible to upkeep their images and lives leads Kim-Kim to go ga-ga over every man she dates. She hasn't learned that just because he's a nice BF, he won't be BFf Hubby Material.

    Whatever! LOL... like you said, the alternative doesn't matter. What matters is how it ended up.

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  6. Kim and her whole family are a complete joke, I support nothing that they do because they are all in it for the wrong reasons. They don't do anything for the right intentions and all for money and media. I don't get frustrated at much but when I see the Kardashians in the news every other week for either getting engaged, married, divorced or having a baby I just can't stand them! Sorry to vent, just a hot topic for me.

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  7. I haven't been following the media on this - but I'm not surprised...

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  8. i wasn't surprised.... i read she said she got caught up in the wedding production of it all... i can completely see how that would happen but at the same time I feel like that's a monster of her own making. i don't know them (obviously but I only say that bc what we read in the media is often not reality) I don't really follow the story but it's sad... any divorce is.

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  9. I wrote a post about this same issue just a few days ago and was happy to see how many others were on the same boat as me.
    I am so tired of seeing these people on the news or what i thought was the real news. Between them and the mother make the worst role model for anyone anywhere in the world.
    What i decided is that i turn off the TV whenever they or any of these fake celebrities show up. That is the best way to get them off the air... by affecting their ratings!

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  10. I wasn't too surprised with the divorce, you could see it come before they got married with the little fights and what not. I don't think they got married for money (but who knows) but I think they both were getting married to get married instead of out of love. I hope they work it out, because divorce is always just so extreme esepcially this quickly! But in the celebrity world, it always seems to happen this way with all the media and craziness.

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  11. This annoys me so much. How can there be people who legit love each other an are not able to get married and there are people out there like Kim who have a lavish wedding and decides that eh I gave it my best shot...after 72 days. Ridic.

    -Ly
    http://www.lyzhang.com

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  12. I think it was a mockery. To call it quits after just 27 days, how serious could she have been.

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